Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Save A Relationship or Two - Speak Up!

Many misunderstandings occur when two people are in conversation and something is said by one of the parties that ruffles the other person's feathers. In that exact moment, the receiver of the message has the opportunity to clear the air by asking the question, "May I ask what you meant by that comment or statement?"  In the heat of the moment, you may not have had time to process what was said during the conversation. Afterwards some things may not be sitting well with one or both of the parties. The negative ego is now turned loose and most likely do it's "thing" causing the person to jump to unnecessary conclusions.

*The photo to the right is angelite. Carry angelite with you to assist with clear and loving communication. It aligns you with your guides, angels and higher self.*

Sometimes, what happens later is our mind or negative ego feeds on the past experience causing it to grow and become distorted. We may even take the experience a step further by asking others what they think the other person meant. We are now making the situation into a bigger situation by involving others who may not have been there to experience the tone as well as the back and forth discussion. Not only were they not there, but they are relying on the relay of information from only one of the parties. We now have a potential toxic situation that is now growing and becoming almost unrepairable because someone did not stop in the moment to ask the simple question, "What exactly do you mean by that statement? 

The negative ego is an interesting challenger. It will activate our fears and make them real. It will embellish harmless situations and destroy relationships. As an intuitive counselor I hear about these scenarios all the time. To be honest, once the seed of doubt comes in and feelings are hurt, it is almost impossible to go back to the trusting, friendly and loving space you were once in with the relationship in question.

My advice is to speak up, ask for more clarity in the moment, even if you are afraid to do so. You may been misinterpreting in the moment because of a limited belief or view on life. It is also quite possible that you received the message exactly how it was meant to be received which in that case, you still do not have to play the guessing game later on by asking for clarity DURING the conversation.

If we, as a collective, were more proactive with our relationships we would not have to have so much disharmony and drama in our lives. Once you have had a taste of a drama-free life, you don't want to go back to unfulfilling and toxic relationships and lives. It is also quite possible that someone is misinterpreting you which in that case be aware of other's reactions when you are engaging in conversation. Be proactive and be sure they understand what you are trying to convey as a though form. If we listen and observe body language and conversation we will be better communicators and listeners. 

Healthy relationships take two willing parties. Be proactive, be responsible and mean what you say and say what you mean. The more you take responsibility for your own interactions in your relationships, less challenging ones will be coming your way because you have mastered the art of clear and concise communication.

Blessings and Light,

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Let's Talk Time Management - Don't Let Your Life Pass You By!

Where the heck did the time go? 

I simply do not have enough time in the day!

Time is disappearing.

I need more help.

I am struggling to just keep up.

I wish there were more than 24 hours in a day.

Let's face it, you probably have uttered at least one of the previous statements. Well, I know for sure I have. We have too many irons in the fire and are spending most of our time just trying to catch up so that we don't completely drop the ball and are experiencing frustration, being overwhelmed and missing out on a whole lot of life. 

As a society, we are so focused on the next big thing, what we still have to finish up or what is going to happen in the future that we are overlooking the beauty and joy in the present moment.

Our journeys are not about the end result, the scenery can be absolutely breathtaking and most of us are not allowing ourselves the time to stop and take it all in. Even taking in the chaos and the disappointment helps add to our life experience. I know I say this often, but how can we know joy if we haven't known disappointment and dissatisfaction. 

In my honest opinion, it is not important to figure out how we got to be such a rushed society that multitasks all day long. I too have been guilty of living a busy and hurried life. Many opportunities reveal themselves on a daily basis and I have several businesses that keep me busy. However, over the past few years I have been able to reorganize my thoughts, routines and priorities and have been able to create balance between career and personal life.

We all have the same 24 hours in a day and in those 24 hours we can learn how to enjoy our lives as we delegate, organize, stick to schedules, use timers and learn how to say no.

Here are some of my suggestions to help you take back your life or how to begin a new one:

  • Limit your time on social media! How many times do you check your Facebook or Twitter accounts? If you are working on a project, do your best to not log into any social media accounts. Set a timer as to how long you will allow yourself for the project that day and stick to the project at hand without any outside influences. 
  • Put the mobile device down. When you have a deadline or are involved in a job that requires your attention, put down the phone. You don't need to check your texts or emails all day long.
  • Speaking of emails, limit how many accounts you need and check email once or twice a day. 
  • Saying "no" will save you headache, heartache and possibly will save a relationship or two. If you graciously say no and someone does not understand then there is a lot more going on there and by saying no you brought some issues to the surface.
  • Make to-do lists daily that are reasonable as to what you can accomplish that day.
  • Schedule social dates with yourself and others and stick to them. Make time for play!
  • Delegate whenever and wherever possible.
  • Be willing to be flexible with your plans. Sometimes spirit has surprises in store for us when we are willing to follow spirit's lead and readjust our paths.
  • Reward yourself every time you have completed a job or to-do. Why not reward yourself? It makes the dedication and hard work worthwhile.
  • If you need to wake up 5,10 or even 25 minutes earlier so you are not rushed during the day.
  • Meditate, by adding meditation into your day you will be less stressed out and you will be able to go with the flow more easily. 
  • Put some of your ideas and projects on the shelf and revisit them in the future. 
  • Make lists of what is important and what can wait by priorities. By taking a look at your schedule you may be able to eliminate some things in your life that are really irrelevant at this time but you keep carrying on because you did not take the time to prioritize. 
  • No work-related activities at least 2 hours before bed. Allow your mind to shift into relaxation mode. This will help you keep healthier boundaries with yourself. 
What is the rush? If you are rushed and hurried, is it because of the time restrictions you put upon yourself? If so, then guess who you may have to have a serious talk with? You got it, yourself. If you are missing out on your life, it may be time to shake things up, don't you agree? Give my suggestions a try. You may find yourself enjoying even the busyness of your life and you also might find extra time here and there in your day :)

Blessings and Light,

P.S. My crystal bowl meditation - Awaken is an excellent way to cleanse and clear the mind, body and spirit. Simply click on the FREE Crystal Bowl Meditation - 5 Minute Meditation and listen to this in the morning and before bed and you will notice a shift in yourself immediately!

Tuesday, September 9, 2014

How To Cope As An Empath In Our Society

Every day I am blessed to witness many empaths reclaiming their personal space as well as their solar plexuses. They come to my center, The Mystical Moon to learn how to empower themselves and genuinely want to heal and embrace life to its' fullest.Empaths are highly sensitive people who feel, I mean really feel the environment around them. They pick up all emotions, sensations, energy imprints from people, places and objects. 

Often empaths do not realize they are absorbing their surroundings until it is too late. They have already taken on others unhealthy emotions, possibly other people's habits as well as belief systems and perspectives.

Can an empath survive in this world? Absolutely! Individuals that are super-sensitive to their environment can learn how to create healthier energetic boundaries as well as can begin to recognize when they are absorbing their environment 

How do you know if you are an empath? Here are some easy to recognize the empathic signs:

  • You suddenly have a nauseous feeling after you meet someone or even walk into an unfamiliar space
  • You have solar plexus issues (sensitive digestion system, stomach aches, that sinking feeling in your stomach)
  • You are influenced by the moods of others
  • You are confused about your emotions
  • People often "dump" on you for no reason
  • You are often overwhelmed in large crowds causing you to withdraw socially
  • Sometimes you are depressed for no reason
If this sounds familiar to you then chances are you are a person with strong empathic abilities. You can most certainly use your gift to be an indicator to when your environment, or a person, or even a certain location is not a healthy place for you. 

Often empaths do not know they are absorbing other's feelings and pain until after the fact. Here are some suggestions to help you manage your gifts that will also help empower you:
  •  Wear deflecting crystals such as jet, black tourmaline, hematite, tiger's eye on your right side. By wearing or carrying these crystals they will project their energy outward, creating a shield of protection for you.
  • Take baths with sea salt or himalayan salt. Did you know you can bathe with himalayan salt? 
  • Learn to cover your solar plexus with your hands or arms. You may even use visualization to help you do so.
  • Sage yourself as well as your space often. 
  • Learn to pick up objects or to use your right hand when handling an object that you are not familiar with. The left hand receives, right sends out energy.
  • Hold your phone to your right ear. If you listen with your left side you may pick up the feelings of the person on the other line.
  • Learn how to say "no", "I don't have the time" or "I am unable to help you at this time."
  • Activate your spiritual protection - your guides, angels, the helpers that are non-physical. Ask them to protect you energetically.
  • Be sure to cut those emotional cords often. 
  • Receive healing treatments such as Reiki, massages, or any type of proactive healing treatment.
  • When you are feeling compromised, do not perform any energy, healing or psychic work. You are more likely to let your guard down and take away someone else's stuff.
  • Before you leave your home, pull your aura in a little closer to the body. You most certainly do not need to go out into the world wide open.
  • Using command phrases such as: Shields Up! or I invoke a bubble of pink and gold protection around me today. 
  • Use a visualization of mirrors being place around your aura facing outwards. This will help you deflect unwanted sensations.
Many empaths are nurses, massage therapists, healers and teachers. They have nurturing and loving energy. By using some of these simple suggestions you most certainly do not have to hide from crowds. You will be able to mingle with your fellow man and woman and will be able to enjoy this amazing  planet and the beautiful souls who inhabit it. 

Blessings and Light,

Wednesday, September 3, 2014

Fears - Where The Heck Do They Come From and How Do You Get Rid of Them?

Fear is the number one obstacle that we create to stop ourselves from manifesting a happy, joyful, abundant and healthy life. If you are breathing, trust me you have some fears here and there that pop up seemingly out of nowhere.

What is fear and is is always a negative emotion? 

Fear is an emotion, a state of being that can stop a person dead in their tracks. It is the negative ego or the part of the personality that is insecure, has an insecure sense of self as well as is a limiting state of being. 
Fear comes up when one lacks faith and trust in their own divine right and abilities and if not worked through thoroughly one will never be able to achieve the blessings that life has to offer that individual. 
Fear can be a useful emotion when it comes to survival. It may be what holds one back when there is danger nearby. The key is to move through the fear with understanding the triggers and being open to solutions or applications that one may not be familiar with.

Where do they come from? There are many sources that your fears may be a result of.
Here are some examples:

  • Past life experience
  • Upbringing, being passed down from parents
  • Trauma
  • Low self-esteem
  • Lack of faith or trust
  • Victim consciousness
  • Core issues that have never been dealt with
These are just a few possible sources fears may have sprouted from. 

Know that you may never be able to pinpoint exactly where your fear came from however, you can most certainly work through these triggers and lead a productive and happier life.

Suggested Solutions:
  • Past Life Regression
  • Hypnotherapy
  • Therapy
  • Soul Retrieval
  • Meditation
  • Soul Coaching
  • Redirecting your thoughts and reprogramming them at the same time
  • Meditation Cd's such as Kelly Howell or The Monroe Institute
  • Affirmations
  • Journaling
There are so many more resources, I suggest you at least try to recognize a fear, do your best to redirect the fear, and seek trusted outside help to help you work through your fears. Sometimes a lot of emotion is stirred up and it is best for someone to help keep an eye on you just in case you find yourself stuck and unable to move forward.

In my opinion, we have all come hear with our own "Bag of fears" yet we do not have to hold onto those fears forever!!

Blessings and Light,

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